I recently watched this video about how straight guys sleep with gay men. Say what? You would think if a man is having sex with other men, he must be gay, or at least bi…right? Not necessarily. According to some men who are straight and are sleeping with men explain; they feel their sexual activities and their sexual identities don’t have to align. Confusing, right?

A straight friend of mine who is a switch prefers to top women but feels a need to bottom some times and has a hard time finding a female partner to top him. So one day he decided to try having sex with a guy. He has no desire to date a man but enjoys the physical, sexual interactions with them.

Listen here where The HuffPost Love+Sex Podcast co-hosts Carina Kolodny and Noah Michelson speak with Christopher, 20 and Mike, 36. Both of these men identify as straight even though they have sex with other men.

Mike, 36, from Canada says it is just easier, like a business deal, with no-strings attached sex. He loves to be in control, nurturing and caring with women, where he says it is just physical, aggressive and athletic with men. A very different experience.

Christopher, 20, has never been interested in dating men, but just enjoys the sexual interaction with men, and is still physically drawn to men. He can only see himself in a relationship with women.

The spectrum has a wide range of variables so I can see how this is possible. In my eyes I would think these men would be bi, but ultimately it is up to the person on how they choose to identify.