So… you read our article on gay men discussing threesomes and now you want to have one yourself? Or maybe you just came here looking for tips on how to have a gay threesome, well it’s a good thing that is exactly what we have for you.

The team here at AllMale has compiled some tips on how to achieve the best gay threesome and we’ll talk about whether we think that’s a good idea or not.
It makes sense to want to branch out and have a threesome. We now live in a culture where being sexually active is becoming more accepted and it is definitely a huge factor in gay culture and relationships relating specifically to male gays.

It could be your relationship is getting a little too predictable and you and your partner want to spice it up. Of course, the first step of a threesome if you’re in a relationship is to make sure that you and your partner are on the same wavelength. You don’t want to force your partner into doing something they don’t want to do while on the other hand if you feel uncomfortable then you have to speak up.

1. Why do you want to have a threesome?
We discussed a little up there but really think about it. Is this a way for you to explore sexual pleasure and just focus on that? Is it a way to bring something exciting into your relationship that will bring you and your partner closer together? Is it a way to explore sexual relations without going into an open relationship that could cause problems.
Look at the reasons that compel you to want one. Make sure that deep down this isn’t a twisted way for you or your partner to cheat on the other person. Remember there are always other ways to spice up a relationship. Perhaps using niche or fetishes such as role play, BDSM or exploring new sex toys.

2. Is a threesome really going to fix your problem?
If the reason for your threesome is solely a way to stimulate activity in attempt to make your partner have sex (perhaps you’re in a bed death situation) then it’s time you find the root of the problem. If you and your partner aren’t already sexually active then this won’t work. There is most likely an underlying problem in the relationship if they have changed or some stress specifically in their life. Take the time to talk it out in a gentle manor or see a therapist if needed. Once again, don’t allow the threesome to be a scapegoat for cheating.

3. Make sure the foundation of your threesome is solid
No, I’m not talking about your chosen sexual position. Talk it out and if you’re both on board then give yourselves a time to think about it on your own and reconvene. This means that you don’t rush into anything. Set a time/ date to re-explore the topic and make sure that it is really something you both want to do.

4. Setting the rules of your threesome
This is when you create boundaries. You have probably heard the age old rules like don’t invite a friend to be in the threesome with you, no texting/calling the third person after, no sleepovers. Find your rules and make sure you both follow them. There is a reason that these rules are used over and over again. Don’t hurt anybody in the relationship and also remember that you don’t want to hurt the third person. They are a human with feelings too.

5. Nobody gets left behind… or forgotten
A major issue that can stem from threesomes is that one person may feel forgotten. The third person you bring in may focus on your partner more than you and you may feel left out or on the other hand they may focus on you too much and not on your partner. Make sure that there is a balance of attention so that nobody feels upset after and so that it is a fun time for everyone.
These are just some of the tips that you may want to consider when thinking about having a threesome.

If you want to see what other gay males say about threesomes then check out GayGod’s Youtube video below:

In the video, he brings together gay YouTubers to discuss the topic of threesomes.