We have pushed this so many times before… gay men and relationships are the same as straight relationships. Some of us are looking for love and commitment and others are looking for one night stands and whatever you’re looking for is okay nothing is better than the other. The only problem is fighting your way through all the men so today I am compiled some realistic dating tips.

Join the gay community

Not only does this help with spreading equality and social justice but hello! People will know that you’re gay. Not to mention all the cool and varied gay events that you can attend. You want single gays to spot you.

Try something new

Lame… yeah I know but seriously if you’re all gym, tan, laundry and you keep going to the same places you’ll only see the same people so put yourself out there and try something new. You’ve already stepped out of the closet now go someplace new. Try your hand at new hobbies, classes and go to new bars and fun places.

Hang with people that can make what you want happen

If you’re only ever around open relationships and you want to just settle down with somebody then you’re probably not going to find what you want. This isn’t to say that you should drop all of your friends but just expand your circle to people who you know what the same things as you.

Sex

Be honest about it. If you’re dating with sex as the most important point of the relationship that’s okay but be honest about it. You never want to hide your desires or that will cause problems for you in the long run. Be sure that you’re making whatever it is that you want the forefront of finding people you’ll get along with.

Have fun

Yeah, you’re nervous but try to stuff it away and have fun dating you might get the guys that think you’re dumb but eventually you’re going to find a person who is the same kind of goofy and you’ll mesh so well with them.

Do not compare

It’s almost stupid for me to write this because it’s a major weak point for me. Value your worth and flaunt what you have. There is always going to be somebody with a better job who is maybe better looking or whatever it is that you’re self conscious about but it’s important to push through that. Trust yourself and what you have.

Of course these tips aren’t original but sometimes it’s important to be reminded of what you need to do so you feel better and keep your eye on the prize. Keep moving forward, you are doing great!